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Monday, December 27, 2010
On a Magic carpet ride
Went Sledding with Kari, and her friend michelle, her boyfriend and brother.
So put on three pairs on pants ( snow pants, jeans and leggings) REALLY warm, whilst I was just wearing a t-shirt, sweater and winter coat on top.
the wind was kinda brutal with it blasting in our face, i could hardly keep my hood up and my snow hat kept falling over my face. Kari lent me her " magic carpet" just a plastic sheet that kept flapping in the damn wind.
It was a beautiful day outside, with the sky slightly overcast with the sun out, not completely or blinding. Trekking up the hillwas a a alight night mare, its like running in sand, only cold. Sledding was FUUUUUN!! you kind of just have to let yourself GO! i was worrying about crashing into something and the speed I was going swooooshing down the hill, my snow hat covering my eyes that I just closed my eyes and let myself SLIDE down the hill!!
The worst and most tirring part was trekking up the hill!! it was steep, the wind in your face, and the snow DEEP! by the time you reach the top you are exhausted!!!!
But it was a lovely lovely day, just marvelling at the vast countryside, I was happy to be living in the country.
So put on three pairs on pants ( snow pants, jeans and leggings) REALLY warm, whilst I was just wearing a t-shirt, sweater and winter coat on top.
the wind was kinda brutal with it blasting in our face, i could hardly keep my hood up and my snow hat kept falling over my face. Kari lent me her " magic carpet" just a plastic sheet that kept flapping in the damn wind.
It was a beautiful day outside, with the sky slightly overcast with the sun out, not completely or blinding. Trekking up the hillwas a a alight night mare, its like running in sand, only cold. Sledding was FUUUUUN!! you kind of just have to let yourself GO! i was worrying about crashing into something and the speed I was going swooooshing down the hill, my snow hat covering my eyes that I just closed my eyes and let myself SLIDE down the hill!!
The worst and most tirring part was trekking up the hill!! it was steep, the wind in your face, and the snow DEEP! by the time you reach the top you are exhausted!!!!
But it was a lovely lovely day, just marvelling at the vast countryside, I was happy to be living in the country.
Saturday, December 18, 2010
Lets talk about SEX
Did I get your attention?
lol
it's ok, don't be shy its perfectly ok, you pervs
nah its really ok
Sex ed in Singapore
Here are my 2 cents
now bare in mind some of you mind find this too liberal and in that case blame it on the 3 yrs i have spent been influenced by the west or some bullshit like that
DOes anyone rmb sex ed in singapore? yeah, the moe-sanctioned video where we were taught sex is bad bad bad and terrible, and anyone who has sex is a probably some poor girl with low-self-esteem who allows herself to be taken advantage of, oh and did i mention in a whore who gets STIs??
I mean at 14, that was the message i got, sex was the worse thing that could happen to you. Ok, im not saying that everyone shares that view, nor am I condonging that 14 yr old shuld be engaging in it. By all means if you are not ready, please don't.
Besdies if you are 14 it is against the law. ( side note- 16 is the legal age in Singapore)
The thing is, sex isn't neccesarily the worse thing, and what should be taught is the Importance of safe sex and contraceptives, not jus the facts but how to use it and the importance importance importance of safe sex practices. And also, how to obtain them, not just condoms but other methods of birth control, I mean at 14 I knew about them ( thanks sec 2 bio) but not really resources on how to obtain it, where is a safe place a teenage girl can go if we wants to start going on the pill? or get an iud? where?
Teach about the effects/ consequences of unprotected sex, I understand that singapore is never ever going to take a stance on okaying pre-marital sex, ( which in itself I find opporessive) yeah marital sex is the get-out-of-jail-free card. Sure you can mix religion into this, but do you really want to impose such things in secular singapore? I think not.
Its great to teach proper relationship-building skills, its ok to be in relatuonships, just for the right reasons, and for girls/ boys to be empowered to say NO if they choose to. But always it's their choice and they have a right to say no, should they choose to say yes , make sure it's legal, safe, both parties are consensual and knowldegable about the consequences. So no-one is feels forced into it. ive heard too many stories of girls being forced into it, eh-hem that means rape!!
Its all about proving accurate information so teenagers can make an informed decision about their sex life. Cos whether you like it or not, they WIll BANG.
ANother thing is judgement, if someone decides to have sex as a teenager, don't judge!!! its their decision/ business and not yours, however if someone is being taken advantage of then it's a different story.
Lastly, one thing that really pisses me off, is the teaching of homosexuality. Not going down the religious route, here is how I will go, before i strt my rant ( if i haven't already lost you) read this ( btw this section only applies if you are straight)
1. How did you come to terms with you heterosexuality?
2. What kind of experiences lead you to have feelings for the opposite sex?
3. How is you heterosexuality affecting your everyday life?
4. Do you friends or family support you heterosexuality?
in other words- Imagine a world where heterosexuality is NOT the norm, imagine a world where having a partner of the opposite sex was considered gross and offensive?
how does that make you feel? uncomfortable much? uneasy much?
tg that homesexuality is negative, bad, unatural and evil is not right!! I did a whole fricken project on this!!
DOn't discriminate or judge people based on their sexuality, it shouldn't matter. If it makes you uncomfortable fine, just don;t let it affect your view of them.
What scares me is this, if im a teengaer who is not too sure of my sexuality ( this happened a lot in IJ) and I keep getting the message that its wrong/ negative/ evil How the hell am i supposed to feel about myself?
how about christians? If im told god doesn't love me just cos I am gay, how does that make one feel? being gay is not a disease, it's not unnatural and it exists on a continuum
from 1-6. It's ok to have feelings for the opposite sex growing up, sexuality occurs on a contiuum.
If anything, it takes fricken courage, it takes courage to come out, which I admire. Don't berate, don't hate and don't judge, you couldpotentially fuck up a kid's life, also I have hope with my generation, we are probably the most accepting generation of them all. If we keep it like that there may be hope yet.
lol
it's ok, don't be shy its perfectly ok, you pervs
nah its really ok
Sex ed in Singapore
Here are my 2 cents
now bare in mind some of you mind find this too liberal and in that case blame it on the 3 yrs i have spent been influenced by the west or some bullshit like that
DOes anyone rmb sex ed in singapore? yeah, the moe-sanctioned video where we were taught sex is bad bad bad and terrible, and anyone who has sex is a probably some poor girl with low-self-esteem who allows herself to be taken advantage of, oh and did i mention in a whore who gets STIs??
I mean at 14, that was the message i got, sex was the worse thing that could happen to you. Ok, im not saying that everyone shares that view, nor am I condonging that 14 yr old shuld be engaging in it. By all means if you are not ready, please don't.
Besdies if you are 14 it is against the law. ( side note- 16 is the legal age in Singapore)
The thing is, sex isn't neccesarily the worse thing, and what should be taught is the Importance of safe sex and contraceptives, not jus the facts but how to use it and the importance importance importance of safe sex practices. And also, how to obtain them, not just condoms but other methods of birth control, I mean at 14 I knew about them ( thanks sec 2 bio) but not really resources on how to obtain it, where is a safe place a teenage girl can go if we wants to start going on the pill? or get an iud? where?
Teach about the effects/ consequences of unprotected sex, I understand that singapore is never ever going to take a stance on okaying pre-marital sex, ( which in itself I find opporessive) yeah marital sex is the get-out-of-jail-free card. Sure you can mix religion into this, but do you really want to impose such things in secular singapore? I think not.
Its great to teach proper relationship-building skills, its ok to be in relatuonships, just for the right reasons, and for girls/ boys to be empowered to say NO if they choose to. But always it's their choice and they have a right to say no, should they choose to say yes , make sure it's legal, safe, both parties are consensual and knowldegable about the consequences. So no-one is feels forced into it. ive heard too many stories of girls being forced into it, eh-hem that means rape!!
Its all about proving accurate information so teenagers can make an informed decision about their sex life. Cos whether you like it or not, they WIll BANG.
ANother thing is judgement, if someone decides to have sex as a teenager, don't judge!!! its their decision/ business and not yours, however if someone is being taken advantage of then it's a different story.
Lastly, one thing that really pisses me off, is the teaching of homosexuality. Not going down the religious route, here is how I will go, before i strt my rant ( if i haven't already lost you) read this ( btw this section only applies if you are straight)
1. How did you come to terms with you heterosexuality?
2. What kind of experiences lead you to have feelings for the opposite sex?
3. How is you heterosexuality affecting your everyday life?
4. Do you friends or family support you heterosexuality?
in other words- Imagine a world where heterosexuality is NOT the norm, imagine a world where having a partner of the opposite sex was considered gross and offensive?
how does that make you feel? uncomfortable much? uneasy much?
tg that homesexuality is negative, bad, unatural and evil is not right!! I did a whole fricken project on this!!
DOn't discriminate or judge people based on their sexuality, it shouldn't matter. If it makes you uncomfortable fine, just don;t let it affect your view of them.
What scares me is this, if im a teengaer who is not too sure of my sexuality ( this happened a lot in IJ) and I keep getting the message that its wrong/ negative/ evil How the hell am i supposed to feel about myself?
how about christians? If im told god doesn't love me just cos I am gay, how does that make one feel? being gay is not a disease, it's not unnatural and it exists on a continuum
from 1-6. It's ok to have feelings for the opposite sex growing up, sexuality occurs on a contiuum.
If anything, it takes fricken courage, it takes courage to come out, which I admire. Don't berate, don't hate and don't judge, you couldpotentially fuck up a kid's life, also I have hope with my generation, we are probably the most accepting generation of them all. If we keep it like that there may be hope yet.
And I find it very difficult to study now.... exams at the very end are NOT fun to study for....
Maybe cos its a) boring b) lack of motivation, and not in exam mode at all, like not much stress
Im not too upset abt not going home, I at least have a few things lined for me here. Cos the break is so short ( that's what i tell myself) hahaha no it's really ok. I will be free by next wednesday.
Its occured to me that all my posts have become very, non-diary-journal-like. For example, I don't recrod the musings of my everyday life. Do you want me to? cos I can!
Yes, like 2 days ago I went to the Farmer's market, yes in the winter! Acutally i really did, with my housemate. SHe had never been to St jacobs ( which is a bit of surprse after being here for 3 yrs) I love st jacobs, the bakery, cheeses, meats and the awesome awesome APPLE FRITTERS!!!!! sorry i don't photobomb
COs i didn't bring my camera
Tbe other stuff you might find border on gimmicky but still the food is good.If you come when it is warmer, usually you can get fresh fruits and veggies for delicious prices.
WHo says waterloo has nothing? Ive lived here for 2 yrs now and I love it here!! tell me to move to missisuaga and I will be sad ( though that might happen to me)
Ok, moving on, Riding post
- Actually i was supposed to go riding today but i fricken overslept, and my ride to the barn tried calling me but i was asleep
- Anyway.... Its alright
- what my last lesson was like = I rode jag, whome I have never ridden before, that animal has horrible ground manners, rude and bolshy and refuses to keep still
- I know 3 yr olds with better manners
- Anyway, we did jumping as usual this time I THINK i nailed it!!!
- i always have trouble optaining the perfect position over fences, i look like crap with my leg waaay to back, my body too far forward a my hands to far back
- But this time i think i got it with my instructor constantly yelling at me to " push your hands FORWARD!" and me forcing my legs forward for a sec and trying not to jump up so muc
- it felt good though, im getting so much morejump experience now im happy
- Its just been ages since ive had a proper dressage lesson and i miss it! Dressage is still my sport
Maybe cos its a) boring b) lack of motivation, and not in exam mode at all, like not much stress
Im not too upset abt not going home, I at least have a few things lined for me here. Cos the break is so short ( that's what i tell myself) hahaha no it's really ok. I will be free by next wednesday.
Its occured to me that all my posts have become very, non-diary-journal-like. For example, I don't recrod the musings of my everyday life. Do you want me to? cos I can!
Yes, like 2 days ago I went to the Farmer's market, yes in the winter! Acutally i really did, with my housemate. SHe had never been to St jacobs ( which is a bit of surprse after being here for 3 yrs) I love st jacobs, the bakery, cheeses, meats and the awesome awesome APPLE FRITTERS!!!!! sorry i don't photobomb
COs i didn't bring my camera
Tbe other stuff you might find border on gimmicky but still the food is good.If you come when it is warmer, usually you can get fresh fruits and veggies for delicious prices.
WHo says waterloo has nothing? Ive lived here for 2 yrs now and I love it here!! tell me to move to missisuaga and I will be sad ( though that might happen to me)
Ok, moving on, Riding post
- Actually i was supposed to go riding today but i fricken overslept, and my ride to the barn tried calling me but i was asleep
- Anyway.... Its alright
- what my last lesson was like = I rode jag, whome I have never ridden before, that animal has horrible ground manners, rude and bolshy and refuses to keep still
- I know 3 yr olds with better manners
- Anyway, we did jumping as usual this time I THINK i nailed it!!!
- i always have trouble optaining the perfect position over fences, i look like crap with my leg waaay to back, my body too far forward a my hands to far back
- But this time i think i got it with my instructor constantly yelling at me to " push your hands FORWARD!" and me forcing my legs forward for a sec and trying not to jump up so muc
- it felt good though, im getting so much morejump experience now im happy
- Its just been ages since ive had a proper dressage lesson and i miss it! Dressage is still my sport
Thursday, December 16, 2010
End of term post?
Another term goes by...
It gets colder,I get older
In some ways im glad
In some ways I know where I am headed, I have a clearer idea of things and one the other hand, i dont. Im still confused, but at least with a clearer idea of what I want and what I can acheive.
What i know is, I can make a difference.
just read my smf 208 post
it was an assignment, but hey i don't mind being reflective. Its a bunch of cheesiness but who doesn't love cheese right
" we're all people
We are part of the present, every one of us, whether we are old or young. This present world is our world too, and we don’t have to wait till later to make the change in our world, now. For me, this course was all about this, being as unoppressive as possible, unpacking our privilege in order to understand, and that empowering me to, through my experiences, change the world, whatever way I can.
All we have to do is to remove that oppressive lens; in order to be non-oppressive one has to be conscious of the privilege you carry. The privilege of knowing what gender you are, of being a heterosexual in a heterosexist society, of being white, being able-bodied.
It gets colder,I get older
In some ways im glad
In some ways I know where I am headed, I have a clearer idea of things and one the other hand, i dont. Im still confused, but at least with a clearer idea of what I want and what I can acheive.
What i know is, I can make a difference.
just read my smf 208 post
it was an assignment, but hey i don't mind being reflective. Its a bunch of cheesiness but who doesn't love cheese right
" we're all people
We are part of the present, every one of us, whether we are old or young. This present world is our world too, and we don’t have to wait till later to make the change in our world, now. For me, this course was all about this, being as unoppressive as possible, unpacking our privilege in order to understand, and that empowering me to, through my experiences, change the world, whatever way I can.
All we have to do is to remove that oppressive lens; in order to be non-oppressive one has to be conscious of the privilege you carry. The privilege of knowing what gender you are, of being a heterosexual in a heterosexist society, of being white, being able-bodied.
Thursday, December 09, 2010
SO instead of going to Kari's ugly christmas sweater party...
I went to facilitate a Focus group
It was more fun than i expected, although there were only three kids who showed up. THough each representative of each age group , one 12 yr old, one 14 yr old and one 17 year old.
The 14 yr old couldn't stop talking, the other two, a boy named adam ( looked like a younger of my housemate)
Basically when i got them into discussion the 14 yr old won't shut up... and pretty much dominated the conversation. Good thing we had our training.... the two other two barely had chances to speak up...
One thing that left an impression on me was support. When i had to ask them " Who do youth talk to about their problems?" the obvious answers like friends and parents came up.. but when i asked what about " teachers" the question about teachers immediately got shut down, or school counsellers, they immediately gave me a quizzing look, and were like really? no?
let me get this straight, if you have an issue but can't talk to your parents about it, or your friends about it.... who do you turn to? religious/ faith group leaders? obviously not.
THen no-one? why arent there school counsellers who the kids can turn to if they have a problem? then again when i was 14 i looked upon the school counsellers as only for ppl with serious problems. I was thought i was never one of those kids with the issues. I probably wasn't.... but then again. You don't need to be crazy to see a counseller, if you have a problem/ issue/ something you can't move past. It's ok. That's what i have learned.
But seriously, this is a major issue, these kids NEED trusted adults they can talk to besides their parents! I mean family is great, but what those who can't? they fear judgement. SO if they can't turn to friends or family.... who can they turn to?
I went to facilitate a Focus group
It was more fun than i expected, although there were only three kids who showed up. THough each representative of each age group , one 12 yr old, one 14 yr old and one 17 year old.
The 14 yr old couldn't stop talking, the other two, a boy named adam ( looked like a younger of my housemate)
Basically when i got them into discussion the 14 yr old won't shut up... and pretty much dominated the conversation. Good thing we had our training.... the two other two barely had chances to speak up...
One thing that left an impression on me was support. When i had to ask them " Who do youth talk to about their problems?" the obvious answers like friends and parents came up.. but when i asked what about " teachers" the question about teachers immediately got shut down, or school counsellers, they immediately gave me a quizzing look, and were like really? no?
let me get this straight, if you have an issue but can't talk to your parents about it, or your friends about it.... who do you turn to? religious/ faith group leaders? obviously not.
THen no-one? why arent there school counsellers who the kids can turn to if they have a problem? then again when i was 14 i looked upon the school counsellers as only for ppl with serious problems. I was thought i was never one of those kids with the issues. I probably wasn't.... but then again. You don't need to be crazy to see a counseller, if you have a problem/ issue/ something you can't move past. It's ok. That's what i have learned.
But seriously, this is a major issue, these kids NEED trusted adults they can talk to besides their parents! I mean family is great, but what those who can't? they fear judgement. SO if they can't turn to friends or family.... who can they turn to?
Thursday, December 02, 2010
Quick post before class!
I have noticed something WIERD about myself
I NEED someone to speak in a north-american/ canadian accent to me!!!
in ORDER for me to speak back to them in that language!!
How i discovered this
I had a meeting with someone who had a strong british accent (welsh)
lo and behold I felt my Singaporean accent coming back, its not strong, its a rather neutral/ slightly british twinged tone.
I no longer really held my canadian accent!!
I have noticed something WIERD about myself
I NEED someone to speak in a north-american/ canadian accent to me!!!
in ORDER for me to speak back to them in that language!!
How i discovered this
I had a meeting with someone who had a strong british accent (welsh)
lo and behold I felt my Singaporean accent coming back, its not strong, its a rather neutral/ slightly british twinged tone.
I no longer really held my canadian accent!!